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Thursday, 13 August 2015
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As I listen to and read about the news, I begin to feel dismayed. Not just because most of it is depressing and some of it tragic, but because of the reaction of the general public to what is happening. The rhetoric is often full of hatred. I hear good, “church-going” people speak with anger-filled voices that I’ve never heard before.

Now I get it. I’m also upset that our government can’t work together and get anything done. I understand the problems facing us. I just believe that it is a mistake to go the lowest common denominator for solutions. When potential leaders use offensive language and attack one another, no issues are addressed, no possible solutions are offered.

I once was trying to help someone whose life had spun out of control. At one point of the conversation, he said, “You don’t live in the real world.” Although I knew what he meant, I later realized I should have responded, “But my world is real to me.”

Before anyone shakes their head at this “stupid, pathetic, white-haired old lady,” come live in my world for a day and let’s talk about kindness, respect, and love for our families and one another.

Perhaps we can even discuss ways we can work together to make the world a better place.

A better world. What a concept.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 1:42 PM EDT
Thursday, 6 August 2015
Global Community

In my last blog I wrote about meeting my friend from India who loved my mystery, Desert Soliloquy. (If you missed reading the blog, just scroll down.)

Writing and publishing books is satisfying in so many ways. If a writer can sell a lot of books—great—but it is about so much more than that.

I have reconnected with people from my past, because I published my books. They’ve contacted me through Facebook or Twitter or my website. This could never have happened years ago.

Publishing can bring fans from abroad who become friends, like the lovely man from India last month. As I mentioned in my blog, a fellow writer in the California Writers Club is also from India, the same area as my friend. Because he and I connected, she has a new contact over there, and I know they will have similar memories of the past. Now how cool is that?

Several years ago I needed some information about Africa for the third book of the Haverford Trilogy (coming out around January/February of 2016). I found a young girl on Facebook, who lived in Africa, and I sent her a message, explaining that I was doing research for my book. She answered all my questions, and to this day, we keep up with one another on Facebook. I just wished her Happy Birthday a few weeks ago.

These connections are happening all over social media and not just with writers. We are becoming a global community.  I believe that if we focus on the positive side of this phenomenon, we will learn more about one another and together make the world a better place.

I’ve been accused occasionally of being a “cockeyed optimist,” (thank you Rodgers and Hammerstein) but wouldn’t it be wonderful if I were right?

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Posted by libbygrandy at 5:26 PM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 6 August 2015 5:29 PM EDT
Sunday, 26 July 2015
Libby's Blog

One gift that comes from publishing a book happened to me this past month. I received an email from a man whose father was visiting from India. They had stumbled upon my mystery, Desert Soliloquy, in the Upland library. His father had liked it so much that he wanted his son to let me know via email. He has published four books in India and wanted to meet with me. 

I invited him to our monthly meeting of the California Writers Club, and he came, meeting other writers. One of those writers is also from India and hopes to visit her hometown sometime in the future. They plan to keep in touch and hopefully get together when she goes to India.

I met my Indian friend again for lunch before he left. He is a delightful, elegant man, and I’m so pleased to have him as a friend now. His books are all in Hindi, but he plans to translate his book of fiction into English and will send it to me. I actually would love to own his books written in Hindi, as the script is so beautiful. (Of course, it would be nice if I could read them, too.)

Publishing books can bring unexpected joy and satisfaction into a writer’s life.

That is what meeting my new friend from India did for me this month.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 2:14 PM EDT
Updated: Sunday, 26 July 2015 2:33 PM EDT
Friday, 19 June 2015
Libby's Blog
I cannot tell you how glad I am that summer is finally here. The only major events now are family oriented, like barbeques, etc. That I can handle. I hope all of you are able to relax a bit. I know that we are not the only ones who had an incredibly busy, sometimes stressful, first half of the year. 

We'll see how the second half goes. I'm hopeful, but everything happening these days seems to be new and unexpected, both personally and globally, so we'll see. At first, I found this disturbing and confusing, but I'm beginning to adapt as more positive events happen, often coming out of negative situations. 

Deepak Chopra says we must accept uncertainty and the unknown. That it allows for what we consider miracles to occur in our lives. Now that's easier said than done, especially for those of us who like to control things, which is most of the human race. That seemed to work in the past but not so much lately. 

What does work for me is “surrendering and trusting.” When I take my sticky mental fingers off a situation, it often turns out better than I expected. 

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Posted by libbygrandy at 4:09 PM EDT
Updated: Friday, 19 June 2015 4:15 PM EDT
Wednesday, 22 April 2015
Libby's Blog

I missed posting my blogs for the first time in years the past few weeks. We were busy with the memorial service for our son-in-law (house full of family). We also were having our computer worked on. It’s fixed now (more memory, etc.), so I’m back blogging. (I'm sure you missed me. lol)

On this blog, I’d like to share our recent experience at the DMV. Those who live in California and are 70 years old must take the written driver’s test every five years. Consequently, my husband and I had to do so before we could renew our licenses.

Fred actually went in January for his, however, after waiting almost all morning for the opportunity to do so, he found out that he couldn’t see the third line of the eye test. We didn’t know he needed new glasses. So they gave him a temporary license. When I later mentioned to a friend that he failed the eye exam, Fred said, “I didn’t fail. I just didn’t pass.” Uh, okay.

Anyway, he went to his eye doctor, and I made appointments for both our tests in March. What a difference it made. No long line, and we were sent immediately to the right windows to continue the process. Within thirty minutes, we had the paperwork done, our pictures taken and had passed our tests. So my advice to anyone having to go the DMV—make an appointment.

And, if it is for a written driver’s test, please, please study! I don’t care if you are a genius, I promise there are questions on the test that you have never thought about. There are also what I consider a few trick questions with answers that are almost right but not quite. I know of a very bright person who confidently walked in and then walked out, in shock, because she had failed. She said to a man beside her, who had also failed, “I have a Master’s Degree.” And he replied, “I have a Doctorate.” They both laughed and went home to study. The DMV will give you a book with a few questions in the back, and you can order another 100 questions to study.

I hope this is helpful, but, if someone decides to ignore my advice, sit in a DMV office with a few hundred people for a few hours and then fail the test, I have these comforting words for you.

You really didn’t fail. You just didn’t pass.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 6:18 PM EDT
Updated: Friday, 24 April 2015 4:56 PM EDT
Friday, 13 March 2015
Libby's Blog

I posted on Facebook last week, thanking my friends for their kind remarks about my latest book, Lydia. I also asked if some might write a review on Amazon. This is something that makes readers nervous, if they aren’t writers. Unfortunately, this means that some of the best reviews never see the light of day (or the internet).

I write reviews all the time when I like a book. First, because I want to support other writers, and, second, because writers need to know that something they have worked on for a long time was well received. Reviews also make a difference in Amazon’s ranking.

So I want to encourage readers to practice writing reviews for their favorite authors. (You can practice on my books, if you like. lol)

You can start by simply saying, “I loved this book.” Or “I recommend this book to everyone. It’s a great read.” As you get used to writing reviews, you will probably find yourself mentioning a character you particularly liked or a locale that was special to you. Non-writers (I think I just made up that word.) don’t trust themselves enough. If you are a poor speller, use spell check. You don’t have to belabor a phrase. Just write down what you would verbally say.

I have heard from a number of people that Lydia is their favorite of the three books they have read, and that they can’t wait to read Book Three of the Haverford Trilogy. That makes me very happy.

Now if a few also put that into writing on Amazon, I will be even happier.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 2:17 PM EDT
Thursday, 5 March 2015
Libby's Blog

We all have our weaknesses and strengths. Sometimes, however, what we consider a strength may, in fact, be a weakness. I’m talking about myself but maybe some of you can relate.

I’m a conscientious person, sometimes to a fault. I try to plan ahead and avoid problems, so my brain looks at every possible scenario and says “if this happens, I will do this, and if that happens . . . .” However, usually what eventually happens is resolved in a way that I never thought of—or it doesn’t happen at all. And I’ve wasted a lot of mental and emotional energy trying to control and “fix” things. 

Although this may not sound like a serious character flaw, I don’t want to waste whatever precious time I have left in this life “working potential problems.”

I had my protagonist in my latest novel, Lydia, address this very idea. (Last page, Chapter Six.

“Sometimes,” Lydia said, “all we can do is put things in God's hands and trust that they will work out. I think myself in circles trying to figure things out for those I love, and somehow the future takes care of itself without any help from me, often in unexpected ways.”

Hummm…is it possible that the characters in my novels are smarter than me? 


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Posted by libbygrandy at 4:18 PM EST
Thursday, 26 February 2015
Libby's Blog


Many people are feeling a bit anxious about the state of the world and their own personal lives these days. I’m working on the “surrendering” technique I blogged about last week. Others have their own ways to find that “peace that passes all understanding.”

It really helps to have a creative outlet at times like these. Something that brings you pleasure. It can be anything—cooking, needlework, physical activity, etc. For artists, it is drawing. For writers . . . .

It also helps to be around others who enjoy the same thing. For example, this Saturday, there is a California Writers Club meeting at the Ontario Library at 10:00 a.m. There will be a roomful of people who love to write. Our speaker’s presentation will cover nonfiction, and I’m sure he’ll give us valuable information. In addition, writers will enjoy the camaraderie of other writers. Afterwards, some of us will go to the café in the library and continue our conversations.

For a few hours, none of us will be focusing on the world scene or personal problems.

Hope some of you can join us.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:12 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 26 February 2015 12:20 PM EST
Thursday, 19 February 2015
Libby's Blog


Sometimes life is overwhelming, for both good and bad reasons. The daily news provides most of the bad reasons for me, as well as my concerns about the future for those I know and love. Most of the people I talk to are feeling the same way these days.

Somehow we need to let go of all the disturbing thoughts in our computer brains and focus on what is good in our life—our family, friends, the kindness of strangers. Sometimes just stroking the soft fur of our dear dog, Missy, does that for me.

I just finished a book that addresses this subject and have found it helpful. It is Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins. We often associate the word “surrender” with “giving up.”  Hawkins makes it clear that is not true. That once we surrender the need to control the outcome, the action taken to reach our dreams and goals becomes much clearer, easier and more effective. Although it is a complicated subject, it is not a difficult technique. For me, it is simply saying the words, “I surrender this.” When I do, the outcome is usually even better.

Why? Because I don’t know everything.

“Really, Libby?” you say. “You don’t know everything?”

No, I don’t, and what a relief it is to just let things go and get back to what’s important—loving our dog, Missy.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 2:13 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 19 February 2015 2:21 PM EST
Thursday, 12 February 2015
Libby's Blog

Most of my blogs recently have been about writing and marketing. This week, however, I don’t really have anything to say about those subjects. Well, okay, there is one thing. “What a surprise,” I can hear you thinking.

One of the perks of publishing a book is that I connect with people from the past. For example, I called the son of one of the women I dedicated my novel to (my mentors, role models, and polestars). We reminisced about his wonderful mother and shared childhood memories. I’m sending his family a copy of the book. The main character, Lydia, is a compilation of several women, but he will recognize aspects of his mother in her personality. The locale will also be familiar. (See cover of book: ) There was a time when there were only open fields around our childhood homes. I remember looking out of my bedroom window in the spring and seeing only apple blossoms for as far as the eye could see. No houses. No subdivision.

Those memories put me in a philosophical mood this week. I’m feeling very grateful for my loving childhood. Hope you all have similar memories.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:18 PM EST

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