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Friday, 19 June 2015
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I cannot tell you how glad I am that summer is finally here. The only major events now are family oriented, like barbeques, etc. That I can handle. I hope all of you are able to relax a bit. I know that we are not the only ones who had an incredibly busy, sometimes stressful, first half of the year. 

We'll see how the second half goes. I'm hopeful, but everything happening these days seems to be new and unexpected, both personally and globally, so we'll see. At first, I found this disturbing and confusing, but I'm beginning to adapt as more positive events happen, often coming out of negative situations. 

Deepak Chopra says we must accept uncertainty and the unknown. That it allows for what we consider miracles to occur in our lives. Now that's easier said than done, especially for those of us who like to control things, which is most of the human race. That seemed to work in the past but not so much lately. 

What does work for me is “surrendering and trusting.” When I take my sticky mental fingers off a situation, it often turns out better than I expected. 

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Posted by libbygrandy at 4:09 PM EDT
Updated: Friday, 19 June 2015 4:15 PM EDT
Wednesday, 22 April 2015
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I missed posting my blogs for the first time in years the past few weeks. We were busy with the memorial service for our son-in-law (house full of family). We also were having our computer worked on. It’s fixed now (more memory, etc.), so I’m back blogging. (I'm sure you missed me. lol)

On this blog, I’d like to share our recent experience at the DMV. Those who live in California and are 70 years old must take the written driver’s test every five years. Consequently, my husband and I had to do so before we could renew our licenses.

Fred actually went in January for his, however, after waiting almost all morning for the opportunity to do so, he found out that he couldn’t see the third line of the eye test. We didn’t know he needed new glasses. So they gave him a temporary license. When I later mentioned to a friend that he failed the eye exam, Fred said, “I didn’t fail. I just didn’t pass.” Uh, okay.

Anyway, he went to his eye doctor, and I made appointments for both our tests in March. What a difference it made. No long line, and we were sent immediately to the right windows to continue the process. Within thirty minutes, we had the paperwork done, our pictures taken and had passed our tests. So my advice to anyone having to go the DMV—make an appointment.

And, if it is for a written driver’s test, please, please study! I don’t care if you are a genius, I promise there are questions on the test that you have never thought about. There are also what I consider a few trick questions with answers that are almost right but not quite. I know of a very bright person who confidently walked in and then walked out, in shock, because she had failed. She said to a man beside her, who had also failed, “I have a Master’s Degree.” And he replied, “I have a Doctorate.” They both laughed and went home to study. The DMV will give you a book with a few questions in the back, and you can order another 100 questions to study.

I hope this is helpful, but, if someone decides to ignore my advice, sit in a DMV office with a few hundred people for a few hours and then fail the test, I have these comforting words for you.

You really didn’t fail. You just didn’t pass.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 6:18 PM EDT
Updated: Friday, 24 April 2015 4:56 PM EDT
Friday, 13 March 2015
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I posted on Facebook last week, thanking my friends for their kind remarks about my latest book, Lydia. I also asked if some might write a review on Amazon. This is something that makes readers nervous, if they aren’t writers. Unfortunately, this means that some of the best reviews never see the light of day (or the internet).

I write reviews all the time when I like a book. First, because I want to support other writers, and, second, because writers need to know that something they have worked on for a long time was well received. Reviews also make a difference in Amazon’s ranking.

So I want to encourage readers to practice writing reviews for their favorite authors. (You can practice on my books, if you like. lol)

You can start by simply saying, “I loved this book.” Or “I recommend this book to everyone. It’s a great read.” As you get used to writing reviews, you will probably find yourself mentioning a character you particularly liked or a locale that was special to you. Non-writers (I think I just made up that word.) don’t trust themselves enough. If you are a poor speller, use spell check. You don’t have to belabor a phrase. Just write down what you would verbally say.

I have heard from a number of people that Lydia is their favorite of the three books they have read, and that they can’t wait to read Book Three of the Haverford Trilogy. That makes me very happy.

Now if a few also put that into writing on Amazon, I will be even happier.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 2:17 PM EDT
Thursday, 5 March 2015
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We all have our weaknesses and strengths. Sometimes, however, what we consider a strength may, in fact, be a weakness. I’m talking about myself but maybe some of you can relate.

I’m a conscientious person, sometimes to a fault. I try to plan ahead and avoid problems, so my brain looks at every possible scenario and says “if this happens, I will do this, and if that happens . . . .” However, usually what eventually happens is resolved in a way that I never thought of—or it doesn’t happen at all. And I’ve wasted a lot of mental and emotional energy trying to control and “fix” things. 

Although this may not sound like a serious character flaw, I don’t want to waste whatever precious time I have left in this life “working potential problems.”

I had my protagonist in my latest novel, Lydia, address this very idea. (Last page, Chapter Six.

“Sometimes,” Lydia said, “all we can do is put things in God's hands and trust that they will work out. I think myself in circles trying to figure things out for those I love, and somehow the future takes care of itself without any help from me, often in unexpected ways.”

Hummm…is it possible that the characters in my novels are smarter than me? 


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Posted by libbygrandy at 4:18 PM EST
Thursday, 26 February 2015
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Many people are feeling a bit anxious about the state of the world and their own personal lives these days. I’m working on the “surrendering” technique I blogged about last week. Others have their own ways to find that “peace that passes all understanding.”

It really helps to have a creative outlet at times like these. Something that brings you pleasure. It can be anything—cooking, needlework, physical activity, etc. For artists, it is drawing. For writers . . . .

It also helps to be around others who enjoy the same thing. For example, this Saturday, there is a California Writers Club meeting at the Ontario Library at 10:00 a.m. There will be a roomful of people who love to write. Our speaker’s presentation will cover nonfiction, and I’m sure he’ll give us valuable information. In addition, writers will enjoy the camaraderie of other writers. Afterwards, some of us will go to the café in the library and continue our conversations.

For a few hours, none of us will be focusing on the world scene or personal problems.

Hope some of you can join us.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:12 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 26 February 2015 12:20 PM EST
Thursday, 19 February 2015
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Sometimes life is overwhelming, for both good and bad reasons. The daily news provides most of the bad reasons for me, as well as my concerns about the future for those I know and love. Most of the people I talk to are feeling the same way these days.

Somehow we need to let go of all the disturbing thoughts in our computer brains and focus on what is good in our life—our family, friends, the kindness of strangers. Sometimes just stroking the soft fur of our dear dog, Missy, does that for me.

I just finished a book that addresses this subject and have found it helpful. It is Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins. We often associate the word “surrender” with “giving up.”  Hawkins makes it clear that is not true. That once we surrender the need to control the outcome, the action taken to reach our dreams and goals becomes much clearer, easier and more effective. Although it is a complicated subject, it is not a difficult technique. For me, it is simply saying the words, “I surrender this.” When I do, the outcome is usually even better.

Why? Because I don’t know everything.

“Really, Libby?” you say. “You don’t know everything?”

No, I don’t, and what a relief it is to just let things go and get back to what’s important—loving our dog, Missy.


Link to Promises to Keep, Lydia and Desert Soliloquy on Amazon: 

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Posted by libbygrandy at 2:13 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 19 February 2015 2:21 PM EST
Thursday, 12 February 2015
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Most of my blogs recently have been about writing and marketing. This week, however, I don’t really have anything to say about those subjects. Well, okay, there is one thing. “What a surprise,” I can hear you thinking.

One of the perks of publishing a book is that I connect with people from the past. For example, I called the son of one of the women I dedicated my novel to (my mentors, role models, and polestars). We reminisced about his wonderful mother and shared childhood memories. I’m sending his family a copy of the book. The main character, Lydia, is a compilation of several women, but he will recognize aspects of his mother in her personality. The locale will also be familiar. (See cover of book: ) There was a time when there were only open fields around our childhood homes. I remember looking out of my bedroom window in the spring and seeing only apple blossoms for as far as the eye could see. No houses. No subdivision.

Those memories put me in a philosophical mood this week. I’m feeling very grateful for my loving childhood. Hope you all have similar memories.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:18 PM EST
Saturday, 7 February 2015
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   Back in the day (as our six-year-old Jesse says), when the Redskins were winning (way back in the day), I loved the Super Bowl! It was often the Cowboys and the Redskins playing, and it is one of my favorite memories of the time we lived in Virginia.

   We either had stew or chili, so that everyone could help themselves and eat in front of the TV. The best memories are those of the snowy days—cold and crisp outside, warm and toasty inside, a fire in the fireplace, with everyone rooting for the Redskins. However, there was one unhappy Super Bowl when we thought we had won right up until Roger Staubach threw a Hail Mary pass in the last two minutes and, well…. I’m still not over it.

   What I remember most is good food, family and love.

   In my world, that’s what life is all about.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:27 PM EST
Thursday, 29 January 2015
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   Life can get complicated. Good things and difficult things often come at the same time. That is what happened in our family this past week, at least to me. Our granddaughter’s father died. He had a heart attack. He was only fifty years old. My daughter and he have been divorced for many years, but the family remained close and loving. So I spent most of the week attempting to console grieving family members. Nothing is more difficult than that.

   On the weekend, I attended the California Writers Club meeting. I was grateful for the distraction of a few hours of camaraderie with my fellow writers. I was on a panel with five other published writers. The audience asked great questions, and I believe we shared valuable information. The journey from writing a novel to publishing it is not easy. It takes hard work and determination, particularly in this new technical world. We were able to address many complicated issues regarding this subject.

   I was happy to be able to tell everyone that my latest book, Lydia, Book Two of the Haverford Trilogy, is now available in both print and as an ebook.           

   So, life happens, and life goes on.

   See you next week.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 12:22 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 29 January 2015 12:32 PM EST
Thursday, 15 January 2015
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I suddenly found time for myself this past week: Christmas decorations put away, house cleaned, bills paid, a copy of my soon-to-be published novel, Lydia, proofed. Time to myself—what a concept.

The first thing I did was pick up my new cross-stitch pattern. I’m making a picture for Jesse of a fireman spraying water. He plans to be a fireman when he grows up. I have to admit that I wondered what I had gotten myself into, as it is huge with over forty different shades of color. Moreover, within an inch of tiny spaces, there are often ten different colors.

As I diligently worked on the pattern, I remembered an article on my website, “Cross-Stitching My Way Through Life.” I’m big on analogies, and this is one of my favorites. Anyway, I was working on a section that was supposed to show a number 13 on the fireman’s hat. The more I pulled different colors in and out, the more I just couldn’t see anything resembling a number. I recounted several times (my fellow cross-stitchers will know what I mean), and I seemed to be doing it right. Finally, a curve for the number 3 began to appear. I was tempted to not follow instructions and make it more visible. I resisted the temptation and did what I’m doing in my life these days. I trusted that if I just kept doing what I was supposed to do, the picture would turn out alright, even though I couldn’t see how. And guess what? 

If none of this makes sense, you might want to go into my website and read the article. I go into more detail. It’s under “Inspirational Stories.” It also has a few pictures on it.

Or, you can sigh and say—enough with the analogies, Libby.

I wouldn’t blame you a bit.


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Posted by libbygrandy at 4:03 PM EST

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