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Thursday, 18 August 2016
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Anyone who knows me well knows I’m not an angry person. Well, until recently. I was just watching an interview on TV and had a strong urge to shout at the screen, “For goodness sakes, just answer the question!” Now when you begin shouting at a TV screen, you are just a step away from believing the object of your anger can actually hear you. My husband walked into the room the other day and asked, “Who are you talking to?” In an embarrassed voice, I responded, “The TV.”

Although it is probably better to vent to an inanimate object rather than a real person, I’m really not happy when I’m angry. In truth, I am miserable. So what’s the antidote to anger? First. you have to make a choice to want to stop being angry, which is sometimes easier said than done. Unfortunately, we feel stronger when we’re angry. The truth is—we don’t make wise decisions when we’re in emotional turmoil, so we really are weaker.

Consequently, each day I choose to find a way not to be angry. What works best for me is focusing on gratitude. When I do, I’m living in the moment. And when I’m living in the moment, I’m not thinking about the future and fearing what might happen. That, in itself, calms me down. So the antidote to anger for me is gratitude.

For many, it is hard to think about what they might be grateful for, because of serious problems in their life. Yet, once the brain starts synapsing, it will find something in your life that is good.

I’ve come to realize that the answers to difficult situations are often the most simple. For example, choose love over hate. For some, that suggestion is ludicrous, because they think they will have to love the people on TV who have just infuriated them.  I’m not saying that. Love your wife, husband, child, dog. You can’t feel love and hatred at the same time. You can revert to hatred. But then you also can revert back to love.

If you can find a place of peace and serenity for a moment, it probably will be wise not to turn on the TV for a while. If you do, don’t bother to shout at it.

They can’t hear you.

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 

 

 

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 5:27 PM EDT
Wednesday, 6 July 2016
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I wrote a blog entitled “It’s a mystery,” awhile back. I’m having the same experience again, because I’ve started a new novel. People often ask writers where their ideas come from. Sometimes we know, more often we don’t. How does that work? I’ll use my novel Desert Soliloquy as an example.

I got the overall idea from visiting the ghost town, Calico, located in the High Desert of California off Interstate 15, heading toward Las Vegas. I fell in love with the town and knew it would be a great template as a setting for a novel. Consequently, those who have visited Calico recognize the buildings in my story as the historical buildings that are still there. My fictional town is called Odessa.

So that’s a question I can answer. The rest, not so much. I decided to have the main character go to the town (not renovated) that is owned by her ex-husband, Charles. She’s supposed to meet him there. As I started writing, however, Charles didn’t show up.  It turns out he had been kidnapped and stashed in one of the abandoned mines in the mountain.

After I wrote a few chapters, I knew that I had to get the guy out of the mountain, but I didn’t have a clue how to do that realistically, so I put the manuscript away and started my ghost story, Promises to Keep. A year and a half later, I suddenly thought of a way to get him out and went back to working on the manuscript. The rest of the story simply evolved. By that I mean I just let one chapter lead into the next and allowed the story to happen.

If you think I’m strange, I can assure you that I’ve talked to many writers who write exactly the same way. An idea “just comes” to them, and they write it down. Of course, there are also others, like SciFi writers, who outline and know exactly what is going to happen.

I’m allowing my new storyline to evolve the same way. I thought I knew who was going to get killed in my latest book, but lo and behold, it turned out to be someone else. I have an idea about what will happen with some of my characters, but who knows, they may rebel and take me in another direction.

Does this sound like I don’t know what I’m doing?

Probably.

How does this work? I have no idea.

It’s a mystery.

And I love it!

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 11:27 AM EDT
Updated: Wednesday, 6 July 2016 9:00 PM EDT
Thursday, 9 June 2016
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I have made a decision. I am not going to run for president. I know this is going to disappoint my many supporters who believe I can solve all the problems in the world. It’s true, of course, I could. However, I have an idiosyncrasy that disqualifies me as a presidential candidate.

I like being nice to people. It makes me happy.

I also believe in being kind, thoughtful, reasonable, and respectful.

Apparently many see this as weakness rather than strength. They have no idea how tough and determined people like me can be. Just ask my husband although he may add the word, “stubborn.”

So I guess I’ll just be nice to my family, friends and strangers on the street—postpone my presidential ambitions until the world is more receptive.

Maybe 2024?

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 

 

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 7:04 PM EDT
Updated: Thursday, 9 June 2016 7:09 PM EDT
Monday, 16 May 2016
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I suppose that a refined Southern lady (my “image” lol) should not use the word, “hell,” as in “Come hell or high water.” However, it adequately describes my feelings right now.

Everyone I know is feeling overwhelmed by all the negativity and anger in our country these days. Most of my friends are very positive people who don’t usually contemplate “giving up.” However, this is a time like no other, and frankly, no one knows what to do. Everyone has serious challenges. The world scene is chaotic. And then there’s the political arena. (Need I say more?)

But I have made a decision. I refuse to give up hope.

Next year this time I’ll write another blog on the subject. We’ll see where we are in our personal lives and what’s happening globally.

Everything evolves from a thought and a choice.

I choose to believe we’re going to be in a better place.

Come hell or high water!

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon: http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go tohttp://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy


Posted by libbygrandy at 8:23 PM EDT
Friday, 26 February 2016
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Even though it has become a cliché, I do believe there is a reason for everything. I often don’t know the reason until later, but it helps me go through difficult times if I believe there’s a purpose behind them. I have to admit that in regard to the political scene, I have felt stymied. Recently, however, I had a thought. 

Okay . . . here goes. We can agree there is a lot of emotion going in the political arena. A lot of passion, albeit not always very positive. But maybe that’s the answer to the reason behind the madness. Maybe people can use the passion to eventually move forward. Maybe we can use it to stop fighting one another and devote ourselves to solving the problems. Maybe everything has to come to the surface first—the good, the bad, and the ugly. When there is an infection in the body, it sometimes has to be lanced before the healing can begin. 

I have to admit I’ve never been that politically motivated, but the anger and dismay that I’ve felt the past few months when watching the news has evolved into a passionate desire to dive into the fray, in a positive way.

This is a tough time, but . . . dare I say it?

I believe there’s a reason for everything.

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 11:47 AM EST
Updated: Friday, 26 February 2016 6:51 PM EST
Thursday, 18 February 2016
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I talked about anger in my last blog. It helped me to acknowledge the problem and choose to change the behavior. I still get irritated when I watch the news but that’s far easier to let go of. There is a reason people hang on to anger. Underneath anger lies fear. Anger makes them feel strong for a short while. Fear . . .  that’s the real problem in the world today.

We don’t like admit it, but we are afraid. I don’t know anyone who doesn’t have something to fear in the future. Hopefully, their fears never materialize, but it’s a daily challenge to trust that we will get through this difficult time to a better place, both personally and globally.

If I could, I would fix every problem for every person in the world. (It’s a Pisces thing.) But that’s not my job. I can be there for those I love in appropriate ways, but everyone has to figure out this strange time for his or her own self.

What I can offer is the fact that we are not alone. I feel connected to others these days, including strangers on the street. That may be another Pisces thing, but I hear the same thing from my family and friends. We’re in this together. And we’ll get through it together. As long as we don’t go to the dark place of hatred and anger.

It’s a choice.

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 3:46 PM EST
Updated: Thursday, 18 February 2016 3:57 PM EST
Friday, 5 February 2016
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I’m not an angry person. I get irritated like anyone else but usually have a fair amount of patience. However, for the past few months I’ve (foolishly) been watching the news every day. At first, the negative comments amused me as they were so outrageous. As they turned unkind and even hateful, I began to feel less patient and more than irritated. Eventually, I got angry every time I turned on the TV. Apparently anger is contagious. (Hopefully hatred isn’t.)   

It always helps me to write my feelings down, so I decided to blog about this new, uncomfortable feeling of anger. I have learned that others are often experiencing similar emotions, so I assume my words are resonating with some of you now.

There are those who insist that things will only change and improve in our country if we energize ourselves through anger. I disagree. I have always felt passionately about certain issues, but I never got angry at people who didn’t share my beliefs.

Unfortunately, many others have bought into the theory that anger is the solution to the nation’s problems. Even good, kind people. I spoke to an old friend this past week. We had a wonderful conversation about growing up in Virginia—until we touched on the subject of politics. This “good man” ranted and raved, so uncharacteristic for him.  I didn’t respond to the tirade and changed the subject, so we eventually got back to our original friendly conversation. However, I hung up feeling sad.

Perhaps those of us, who are normally pretty easy-going, are being affected by “mob mentality.” I am not happy in this new, dark place of fear and anger, so I’m going to try and get back to who I am. To change a behavior, we first have to acknowledge it. I’ve now done that in this blog.

If we can rise above our fears and reject anger as a solution, perhaps we will be able to move through this profound time to a better place. That is my hope and my prayer. 

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy 


Posted by libbygrandy at 9:51 PM EST
Thursday, 21 January 2016
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Marketing is not most writers’ favorite word. Writing a first draft is fun. Writing subsequent drafts and having your work critiqued makes your story even better, so it feels good. Publishing is a bit stressful but the result is incredibly satisfying.

Then there’s marketing. If you don’t have the patience of Job, you are not going to enjoy it. If you do, there can be a certain amount of gold at the end of the road. However, if a writer hasn’t built a platform and branded his or her name before publishing a book, it can be a very long road. (Unless you publish a dreadful novel like Shades of Grey but let’s not go there.)

To better understand how marketing works, I suggest that writers put themselves in a reader’s shoes. Think about how you buy a book. First you have to know it’s available. However, just seeing a book posted on Facebook or Twitter may not entice you to buy it. Okay, if it’s a friend, maybe. But you probably will still go into Amazon and check reviews and download a sample. Now maybe you just paid the rent and decide to buy it later in the month. It turns out to be a very busy month, and you don’t get around to it until much later or forget about it all together.

Have I depressed my writer friends by now? I hope not, because my goal is to reassure published writers that eventually people will buy their books, if they don’t give up. There is a natural period of time between publishing your book and seeing royalties show up in your bank account. The initial amount appears within a few months and depends on how many friends and family you have. The larger amount depends on strangers. And that is where successful marketing kicks in. How do writers reach strangers? It’s helpful if a writer has more than one book available on Amazon as one book sells another. Even traditional publishing companies don’t see a real profit until an author has three or four books out, and they have professional marketing venues.

I often buy books recommended by friends. So I intend to let people know when I really like a book, as I will be helping a fellow writer in their marketing.

Too many writers get discouraged after a year or so and stop marketing. Some even stop writing. However, “real” writers just keep writing and practice Job’s patience until they develop a fan base and begin to sell more and more books.

Writers can enjoy the fruits of their labor in a variety of ways. My advice is: join writers’ groups, give talks, have fun. Cash those royalty checks and have a café mocha or buy a car, depending on the amount received.  

Appreciate the wonderful gift of being able to write. Rich or poor, we writers truly are blessed.

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy 


Posted by libbygrandy at 3:32 PM EST
Friday, 18 December 2015
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I’m grateful for so many things in my life these days, mainly my family and friends, but also that the third book of my trilogy is published.

I joked with my writer friends that now that I’ve written and published the third book, I can peacefully die, knowing that I have met my goal of four published books. Okay, okay, just kidding, but you never know when you reach my age. Just saying . . . .

The truth is I have another book started, so I guess I have to live at least two more years to reach my new goal. I believe I can manage that.

I’m not sure why I’m always publishing books around the holidays, as there is so much to do.  However, I won’t begin serious marketing of this latest one until after the first of the year. Then I’ll share that process with other writers in these blogs.

For the next week, I plan to focus on wrapping presents, decorating our usual huge (real) tree and celebrating with loved ones.

I hope all of you have a wonderful holiday!

See you in 2016!!

 

Link to the Haverford Trilogy: Promises to Keep, Lydia, True Abundance, and my mystery, Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website and blog, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy

 

 

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 12:54 PM EST
Updated: Friday, 18 December 2015 12:58 PM EST
Saturday, 21 November 2015
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As I wait for the final proof copy of my new novel, True Abundance, Book Three of the Haverford Trilogy,  I want to give kudos to CreateSpace. I’ve worked with them for the past three years, and it has been a great partnership. In 2012, when I published Desert Soliloquy, I had no idea what I was doing, but my consultant, Roy Francia, was wonderful. He walked me through the initial process and urged me to call him whenever I had a question. What I remember most about him was that he didn’t try and talk me into buying services that I didn’t need. He told me what was available, and I chose the basic services since I have a great critique group and good writers willing to edit and copy read my final drafts. I know other writers who bought more and were pleased with the services.

I also remember that he didn’t rush me, answered all my questions, and we talked about writing for quite awhile. I worked with other consultants for my next two books, and they were great, too. But I was pleased to reconnect with Roy for this new one. We reminisced about my publishing Desert Soliloquy and talked about the importance of writers sharing their stories with others.

If any of you want to talk to someone at CreateSpace about publishing your work, do ask for Roy. Or email me at quillvision@aol.com and I’ll give you his phone number. It will make what can be a rather intimidating first experience in self-publishing so much easier.

So guess whom I’m going to ask for when I publish my next book, The End is the Beginning, in 2017.

 

Link to Promises to Keep, Lydia and Desert Soliloquy on Amazon:  http://ow.ly/HXHE3 

If you would like to read the articles on my website, go to http://www.libbygrandy.com.

And my Twitter handle is: @LibbyGrandy 

 


Posted by libbygrandy at 7:08 PM EST
Updated: Sunday, 22 November 2015 2:40 PM EST

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